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本帖最后由 snowspring 于 2011-3-19 08:47 编辑
I am not part of authority - like the "ban ju". I suppose ban ju listens to all the ideas and then he/she makes the decision and I am OK with that. There are many voices at the forum. When there are personal stories and voices there is of course a problem of privacy and it is important whatever we write do not taint other friends from the forum. The trick is to strike the balance - being able to express one's feeling without intruding into other people's privacy.
The forum allows us to express our own stories - like if we broke a bone, tore a muscle, and when we express on the forum we generally get a lot of advice, sympathy, kind words - which is all good. We need friends, albeit virtual to help us get through the day. It is comforting. I look at it the same way if we loose a friend, love of our life, a partner, I have no objection to people expressing their feeling on the forum. As a reader, I would tend to be much less judgmental when people are expressing their feeling due to the loss of something or when they are already in a state of pain. They need a space to express their feelings, share the pain. As readers it is more helpful to share with them what one can do instead of what one should not do in those situations. Hopefully at the forum we are allowed to share feelings in a way not to affect other friends' privacy on the forum. It works well when the forum "ban ju" has the latutude to exercise his/her discretion to do the appropriate things when confronted with such a problem. We shoulod respect the ban jus' decision unless it is patently unreasonable. |
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